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Warning Signs ______________________________________________________________________________


  • Wants to be with you constantly
  • Accuses you of cheating all the time
  • Follows you around or frequently calls during day
  • Odd behaviors like checking your car mileage or asking friends to check in on you

Controlling Behavior

  • Hides controlling behavior behind pretending to be concerned for your safety, or that you use your time well
  • Acts like you don't have the ability to make good decisions
  • Becomes extremely angry when late
  • Constantly questions who you spend your time with, what you did/wore/said/where you went
  • Makes you ask permission to do certain things

Quick Involvement

  • 6 months or less before living together/engaged
  • Claims love at first sight
  • Says you are the only one who can make them feel this way
  • Pressure for commitment

Unrealistic Expectations

  • Compliments you in a way that makes you seem superhuman
  • Very dependent for all needs
  • Expects you to be perfect
  • Says "I am all you need. You are all I need."


  • Tries to cut off all your resources
  • Puts down everyone you know
  • Friends are either stupid, smutty or you are cheating with them
  • Family is too controlling, don't really love you, or you are too dependent on them
  • Refuse to let you use car or talk on phone
  • Makes it difficult for you to go to school or work

Blames Others For Problems

  • If there are problems at school or work it is always someone else's fault
  • Your fault for everything that goes wrong in the relationship

Blames Others For Feelings

Makes you responsible for how they feel:

  • "You make me mad."
  • "You're hurting me for not doing what I ask."
  • "I can't help being angry."
  • "You make me happy."
  • "You control how I feel."
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